Conversations, Not Confrontations
"A person's success in life can be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have." -Tim Ferris
Well it looks like 2020 is going to oblige us with plenty of opportunities. It is up to us to choose:
Stay the same, or change.
In order to grow we need to get uncomfortable. Nothing changes if nothing changes. In a way we need to seek discomfort. We need to have these tough conversations, not just with others but with ourselves.
How can we make these tough conversations less scary?
Gather Facts: The more information you have the more informed your conversations can be. However instead of looking for facts that prove your point of view, look for facts that prove you wrong. Getting information from both sides allows us to have a different perspective. In order to change we need to change the way we think. In order to change the way we think we need to change where we are getting our information.
Check your Emotions: Your Ego is NOT your Amigo. When having tough conversations we tend to let our emotions take control. Most people are rational human beings. So when someone is acting crazy (myself included) I ask myself: “Why would a reasonable, rational, and decent person do what he’s doing?” The answer more often than not can be traced to an emotion a person is experiencing. The reason they are acting out means you have found an emotional trigger. Do you know your emotional triggers? What things set you off? Its good to notice how your emotions change when having these conversations.
Have a Support Group: Our strength as humans is in our numbers. Who do you have around you in your support group? Life is going to knock us down at one point or another (or all of 2020). We know on the path to change there will be challenge.
We at Victory are committed to supporting you in whatever capacity that means.
We know change is hard and we embrace the process.
We are committed to using all of this challenge and discomfort 2020 has thrown at us to allow us to grow in ways we never thought possible. However you have to be willing.
You have to have to be willing to have these conversations with yourself as well as others.
What are you willing to tolerate?
What are you going to do about it?
Remember not making a decision, is a decision.
Gather facts, Check your ego, and reach out for support.
We are here for you in anyway you need us!